What is a real man? Look at the movies. Read the magazines. Listen to the music. What do you see? Muscles, money, and women. A real man is tough. He handles his own business.
A real man has money. Who cares if he blows it on trinkets? The point is he has it. A real man has women. But what if our culture is feeding us a lie? What if our culture is grossly misleading us when it comes to the nature of a real man?
Our high schools, colleges, workplaces, and homes are filled with men that are trying to be legitimate. The problem is we are looking for legitimacy in an ever-changing culture. A culture that is predicated on promiscuity and infatuated with the almighty dollar. The cultural picture of real men is a facade.
We must wade through all the charades and cultural stigmas. But once we dig below the surface, something different is exposed, something divorced from the cultural non-sense. Something grounded in the Truth, not a perceived one.
Or what about my boss at work? They deserve everything they are getting from me and others. See…a real man finds no value in tearing down other people.
1. be fearless
He realizes these people are not much different from him. He also realizes God is not glorified in the tearing down of others. But show me a man who builds up his wife and friends…and I will show you a real man. A man who honors his wife and friends can only do so because he is confident in himself.
Men, when was the last time you complimented your wife in front of others? When was the last time you made her feel important? A real man makes a habit of honoring and building up his wife and friends. Guys, let me be real with you. If this is you, stop it. End the relationship.
A real man respects the feelings and dignity of women. He does not see women as objects to fulfill his desires. He does not date because having a girl is fun or expected.
There is intentionality behind his relationships. Laziness is a modern-day epidemic, no doubt. But the pursuit of a paycheck is also plaguing our country. A real man is not lazy. He works hard. But a real man never allows the almighty dollar to drive his hard work.
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A real man works hard because he works for God. The pursuit of a paycheck is turning men from husbands and fathers into distant figures whose lives have no greater purpose than a selfish lust after a large in a bank. How ridiculous.
A real man recognizes the cultural lies and acts accordingly. This allows him to work hard, rest hard, play hard, be present as a father and husband, and nurture his relationship with God. Make no mistake. I love golf. I would love to play every day. I know guys who take Atlanta Tennis Lessons and love it. But I also have two kids and a wife. I have a full-time job. I have a blog.
And there are only twenty fours in a day. Something must go to the back burner. There are seasons of life where golf, fishing, or hunting must take a backseat.
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Hobbies are just that…hobbies. A real man never chooses a hobby over family or God. I remember visiting Las Vegas for the first time. Women wearing next to nothing begged for the attention of those around. Sensuality and the objectification of women and men were impossible to ignore.
We live in a sex-crazed world. He values purity in his thoughts, conversations, and relationships. For much of my life, I struggled to keep my mind pure. I thought lust was normal and uncontrollable.
3. live, speak and listen from the heart
Boys will be boys, right? Lust is sin. A real man. The cultural lie that all men lust fed a porn addiction.
3. a real man protects his partner physically and emotionally.
A real man takes the steps necessary to keep his mind and actions pure. Purity is a virtue. It is something God values. A real man pursues it. If someone forces you to react, you are not in control of yourself. A real man is not controlled by emotions. He is not controlled by others.
2. a real man commits to the relationship fully.
Despite the lies of the world, this is true strength. Strength that comes from within. Strength that comes from God. Self-control breeds a life with less regret and more stability. A real man values self-control.
He draws strength from the Lord. God is the only source of lasting strength, and a real man acknowledges this reality.
He then uses this strength to lead his family, run his business, and interact with his peers at school in a way that glorifies God. This dog eats dog cloud hanging over our culture is a lie. A real man celebrates with his friends, wife, and co-workers when something positive happens in their life.