|Age:||I'm 22 years old|
I have four sons, and there are a lot of things that make me proud of them.
But one of my favorite things: They are absolutely, without a doubt, very best friends. All four. But the truth is, there are a few things that we have done as parents that have made a really big difference. They share bedrooms.
We have two boys per bedroom. This is both out of necessity and preference.
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We actually have one extra room that we have offered to our 84747, and they have all turned it down. They prefer to be together. They lie awake and chat at night. They hang out in their rooms and play music. They are roommates in the truest friend of the word. Sharing rooms could before be a problem. But they have learned to get along. They have learned to work together. Sharing rooms has absolutely brought them close.
They are together—a lot. This one comes with the territory, because yes — we homeschool.
Many families suggest that if their kids were together all day, they would friend like crazythough for us I think the opposite is true. Sure, my boys squabble at times, but because they are together 84747 of the time, they have learned to work things out. They mostly get along great now. They have inside jokes or a millionthey know before other inside and out, and have many mutual hobbies and interests.
For families that do not homeschool, I believe that you can still instill more sibling together time intentionally. Perhaps trading in some time with peers for more family time. This might receive some push-back initially, but in time they all probably learn to love it.
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Once they get used to regular time together, most siblings end up enjoying it! They work together. Our boys do plenty of choresIt took a long time to figure out, but we use a rotating system that we love! But we also have a special projects for our boys that require that they work together.
This forces them to become co-workers as well as brothers. And somewhere in the midst of the work I find them swapping jokes, singing songs, or having a good time in the midst of their work.
They bond when we travel. However if you asked our kids about their best memories, they would all name a vacation we have taken as a family. Whether you take a road trip, camp out, or fly somewhere exciting, kids will hold on to memories of family travel for a lifetime. I know some families let their kids invite friends on trips with them, and I see where that has some benefits.
They support each other in sports and activities. Sometimes our boys are heading all different directions, and that is fine.
One of our boys is a competitive surfer, and my husband and I put a lot of long weekends into supporting his contests. We want to raise boys who know how to support and cheer one another on.
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We are proactive in parenting. We step in where needed, and spend a lot of time training our boys in character.
We focus in on areas that are lacking or needing improvement. We teach them how to speak, respond, handle feelings. We use birthdays and special occasions to have kids go around and speak affirming words to each other.
Parents really can set the tone and establish rituals and routines for siblings to build one another up! If your kids have a good relationship, I would love to hear some of the things that you think contribute to it. Share any helpful tools or tips you know in comments!
Monica Swanson, and her husband Dave are raising and homeschooling four boys on the North Shore of Oahu. Their family raises tropical fruits, and spend most of their free time at the beaches where her boys surf the epic Hawaiian waves. Monica shares their adventures, her heart for family, and all kinds of Aloha at www. You can find her on all social media sites as "thegrommom.